Sometimes change is scary but still a necessity…
It’s early morning and I find myself awake suddenly, sleep has been fairly elusive for me for as long as I can remember so it’s not a new sensation. I found myself journaling on paper for the first time in a long time and decided to move some thoughts here as I wind down to go back to my bed and my snuggle pooch.
Last night I went to an online community which I used to spend a lot of time with for a meeting (yes recovery related). It has been a while since I’ve been to one of these meetings and I am incredibly well versed in this particular program thus I was hoping to work through one of the tools that I have been somewhat stuck on the last few days. I found myself in uncomfortable territory as I knew absolutely nobody in a place where I used to be a fixture, part of me was happy to see so many new people seeking help but another part of me was somewhat depressed to see so many new people needing help.
In any case, I brought up what I was hoping to work on to little effect (my tool was much more advanced and most meetings at this particular site are geared towards early tools). I sat through a good majority of the meeting but removed myself when I felt things were going south for me, the meeting started to tilt towards other methods used by other programs. I thought it best to leave the meeting and let them do what they need to do as it was non productive for myself and possibly dangerous to others for me to stay. I entered the public chat instead to see what other strange changes have happened.
I must bring up that years ago this particular community suffered a problem with a technology provider going south and a large number of us “fixtures” moved on to another platform as a stop-gap measure until things got figured out. The organization that maintained this online community hit us with a lot of push back over the change taking it as a threat and as such a large rift was formed. I will say that our stop-gap has become fairly permanent and while small our community is incredibly tight knit. We have genuine concern for each other and it’s not uncommon for one of us to reach out to another when we suspect they need help.
In the public chat system of the old community I saw very few familiar faces, one of which I was very happy to see as I had not spoken with this person in a very very long time. We had some very good conversation and we also managed to help guide two newcomers to help within that community. I didn’t dare bring up our little side group for fear of the push back (banning, etc.) from the old community, I played it fairly straight forward. While I never did accomplish getting past my “stuck” point in the tool that I am working I felt more emotionally calm and sound having possibly helped others.
I suppose the point of all this is that I was a part of a relatively strong and large community that simply changed, I felt incredibly uncomfortable last night as the old familiar feel of the community was gone. Perhaps had I gone back sooner when they rebuilt the chat and meeting systems and let myself stay there I might have felt more comfortable with the change as it would have been more gradual. Fact is, during the flux time of that community I myself was in a horrible flux time. Fact is, I’m still experiencing a flux time though nowhere near as horrible.
Change, and seeing the results of change can often be incredibly scary. I take comfort in the thought that both communities are still around at present and that both communities have no quam reaching out to those needing help. I take pride in my knowledge of the tools and while my lack of using the tools in the past is depressing the thought that I am using the tools actively on a consistent basis currently gives me hope. Will I once again haunt the pages and meetings of this older community that I was once a fixture in? I cannot say for sure, at worst I will return now and then I suppose even if it’s just to refresh myself with a more dynamic group as our members are fairly fixed.
I can take responsibility and utilize my own agency~~
I cannot say I like the changes I see, and in the case of the meetings being geared to early tools I am not a fan of the fact that some changes I feel are necessary have not happened. The fact is communities like these exist for just that purpose to serve a community not to serve just me. I can take responsibility and utilize my own agency to reach out to someone directly to help me with my more advanced tools. I have to remember my goals and my responsibilities, it’s no longer a time to hide regardless of how uncomfortable with change I am.
The world is not going to stop for me, nor should it. And I should not stop for any discomfort whether incredible or otherwise. I have been blessed with a very large support system, many times many people have genuine concern for my well being and to ignore this fact any longer is a disservice to those that are there for me, as well as myself. With that thought I will close and wander back to my bed and my pooch.
Tomorrow we should face whatever changes we need to with strength and understanding.